I thought the Selkie story and metaphor was beautiful and poignant. It evoked in me the calling home and the lost self I felt in both marriage and motherhood, particularly when my children were small and had big needs.
Given where my mind was with the Selkie myth, I was surprised by the next subject. It took me a minute, but I did get to where you were taking us.
I relate to your coming home and finding healing through submission in that I briefly got involved with a Dom. I didn’t participate in a scene, but we talked contract and had a lot of discussion about this seemingly paradoxical position of power through submitting. I ultimately found him to be an unsafe person but it opened my eyes to the BDSM kink world & the potential & possibility for deep intimacy and healing.
Thank you so much for your words! The Selkie tale moved me so much, as well. I remember hearing a brief part in the movie that spoke of it, and right away jumping on finding more about this beautiful folklore. So powerful.
And thank you for commenting on the second part of the writing and how the transition to submission part surprised you at first. That means a lot to me, as I often think long about where am I going in my posts. At times, I find myself lost in how to make a transition - it may be well connected in my head, but I would struggle on how to present it to others. And so I am glad that you did get where I hoping you'd go :)
I am glad you have listened to your intuition when it came to that particular Dom, and didn't pursue anything with him. However, when the partner is right, and the boundaries are respected, BDSM (more specifically, submission) can be a powerful way to heal. :)
Thank you for sharing this with us Marina. I love the beauty of the Selkie skin metaphor, have wanted to see that film, and now will definitely be watching! I've left pieces of my soul skin behind in relationships where I felt it was snatched from me, where I was mothering other people's Son's, and in places or situations I've lived where I've felt trapped or stuck. What a gift to be able to take ourselves through the process of recovering this for ourselves. And I'm so grateful for your perspective on finding your Sovereignty via submission - this honestly lit a huge lightbulb for me as this is something I've also felt before but never let myself admit to preferring, thinking this made me weak. Thank you for reframing that this can actually be freeing for some of us!
I am glad you resonated Natalie. It was a counterintuitive thing for me as well, to associate submission with sovereignty, but then it all changed. It is according to my rules, my boundaries, and consent that I got to live it. We can all do that ❤️
@Juniper Lynn Tartaglia thank you so much for restacking me, and for your support! I am glad you liked the Selkies 🖤✨
I thought the Selkie story and metaphor was beautiful and poignant. It evoked in me the calling home and the lost self I felt in both marriage and motherhood, particularly when my children were small and had big needs.
Given where my mind was with the Selkie myth, I was surprised by the next subject. It took me a minute, but I did get to where you were taking us.
I relate to your coming home and finding healing through submission in that I briefly got involved with a Dom. I didn’t participate in a scene, but we talked contract and had a lot of discussion about this seemingly paradoxical position of power through submitting. I ultimately found him to be an unsafe person but it opened my eyes to the BDSM kink world & the potential & possibility for deep intimacy and healing.
Thought provoking & Fascinating read.
Thank you so much for your words! The Selkie tale moved me so much, as well. I remember hearing a brief part in the movie that spoke of it, and right away jumping on finding more about this beautiful folklore. So powerful.
And thank you for commenting on the second part of the writing and how the transition to submission part surprised you at first. That means a lot to me, as I often think long about where am I going in my posts. At times, I find myself lost in how to make a transition - it may be well connected in my head, but I would struggle on how to present it to others. And so I am glad that you did get where I hoping you'd go :)
I am glad you have listened to your intuition when it came to that particular Dom, and didn't pursue anything with him. However, when the partner is right, and the boundaries are respected, BDSM (more specifically, submission) can be a powerful way to heal. :)
Thank you for sharing this with us Marina. I love the beauty of the Selkie skin metaphor, have wanted to see that film, and now will definitely be watching! I've left pieces of my soul skin behind in relationships where I felt it was snatched from me, where I was mothering other people's Son's, and in places or situations I've lived where I've felt trapped or stuck. What a gift to be able to take ourselves through the process of recovering this for ourselves. And I'm so grateful for your perspective on finding your Sovereignty via submission - this honestly lit a huge lightbulb for me as this is something I've also felt before but never let myself admit to preferring, thinking this made me weak. Thank you for reframing that this can actually be freeing for some of us!
I am glad you resonated Natalie. It was a counterintuitive thing for me as well, to associate submission with sovereignty, but then it all changed. It is according to my rules, my boundaries, and consent that I got to live it. We can all do that ❤️