Beautifully written. And not an easy to understand topic...especially in a culture that generally just isn't built this way. I found you through my partner, Dana's, SoberStack post, and she shares your love for alone time. So, it's a constant dance...of so many variables. Blessings
Thank you so much for your words Randal, and for checking out my profile :) I appreciate it! I am glad you liked the writing, and you're right, our culture doesn't really encourage this at all .. it is up to us alone to try it out and see what works. I am very grateful for Dana and her mention of Messy Recovery. Sending love to both of you.
I have lived alone off and on for decades-I prefer it hands down, despite the fact that I'm in a loving long-term relationship and we live together. I miss that solitude! Great post.
Thank you so much for sharing Kelley. I appreciate other's perspective, especially coming from a woman who is in a loving relationship. Solitude really is a "must" at some point of our lives if we are to fully know ourselves. Much love.
I agree 100%. I would not be any use as a partner if I hadn't partnered myself for many many years. Especially as women, we are SO manipulated and indoctrinated. Solitude is essential for stripping away the lies and getting to the gold inside! Much love to you as well.
Great teaching from you to me. I can say that I don't have long (nor healthy, for that matter) experience in relationships. Sometimes I think I don't know how to be in them. So, I dedicated a certain amount of time to getting to know myself first.
In my Second Act (midlife) I am very mindful of which relationships I want to cultivate. I put a lot of energy into my female friendships so I need to be careful about energy levels. A really cool thing about writing and midlife is my community is forming organically, slowly but deeply.
Beautifully written. And not an easy to understand topic...especially in a culture that generally just isn't built this way. I found you through my partner, Dana's, SoberStack post, and she shares your love for alone time. So, it's a constant dance...of so many variables. Blessings
Thank you so much for your words Randal, and for checking out my profile :) I appreciate it! I am glad you liked the writing, and you're right, our culture doesn't really encourage this at all .. it is up to us alone to try it out and see what works. I am very grateful for Dana and her mention of Messy Recovery. Sending love to both of you.
I have lived alone off and on for decades-I prefer it hands down, despite the fact that I'm in a loving long-term relationship and we live together. I miss that solitude! Great post.
Thank you so much for sharing Kelley. I appreciate other's perspective, especially coming from a woman who is in a loving relationship. Solitude really is a "must" at some point of our lives if we are to fully know ourselves. Much love.
I agree 100%. I would not be any use as a partner if I hadn't partnered myself for many many years. Especially as women, we are SO manipulated and indoctrinated. Solitude is essential for stripping away the lies and getting to the gold inside! Much love to you as well.
Great teaching from you to me. I can say that I don't have long (nor healthy, for that matter) experience in relationships. Sometimes I think I don't know how to be in them. So, I dedicated a certain amount of time to getting to know myself first.
I get that. I was in and out of destructive relationship patterns for decades.
Does that extend to friendship for you as well?
Interestingly, not. Friendships are relationships where I commit and work on them. and you?
In my Second Act (midlife) I am very mindful of which relationships I want to cultivate. I put a lot of energy into my female friendships so I need to be careful about energy levels. A really cool thing about writing and midlife is my community is forming organically, slowly but deeply.
I think communities of women are the way forward.